A Writer’s Love-Hate Relationship with Feedback

Fact: receiving feedback feels awful, it puts you in a vulnerable position and it makes you feel like you suck at writing, and that’s why you hate it. But also, fact: receiving feedback will make you a better writer in the long run. “What the fluff?” you wonder, “how is something that makes me feel so awful supposed to turn me into a better author?” Well, let me quickly break it down for you.

I am aware it’s extremely scary to get your texts feedbacked, because it puts you in this very vulnerable position. “This is my idea. These are my words. I put a lot of effort in it. Now, tell me what is wrong with it.” It always hurts to hear that something which you have put your heart in is not as good as you thought it was. But the fact that you love something does not mean that your readers will love it just as much. Getting your text feedbacked will give you a new point of view on your text, even if it hurts you at first. In the long run, after you’ve made some changes, it’ll improve not only your text but also you as a writer.

Besides that, when receiving feedback, it’s not unlikely your ego will get in the way. “What do they know?” Well, really, they know everything. Quite often, they are the people you are writing for. They are the people that in the end will read your text and give their opinions about it, so why not hear their opinions before you have people read your text for real? Their feedback may be harsh, and you may strongly disagree with it, but in the end, it’s their opinion that will matter. It’s important that you try your hardest to set your ego aside and just listen to what the other person has to say, because it might be exactly what you need to lift your text to that next level.

On top of that, we all know that writing a text doesn’t happen in just a few hours. Once you’ve finished your final draft, you’ve probably read your text a bazillion times already. You’ve come to love it because of the effort you put in it, and we all know what is said about love – it is blind. Because of rereading your text so many times, you might not be able to see its flaws anymore. Someone who feedbacks it for you, on the other hand, probably will. They will be able to tell you exactly in what passages you completely lost track of your reader, and as much as it may hurt, adapting those parts of your text will definitely make it better than it was before.

In conclusion, feedback sucks, and nobody enjoys going through it. But in the end you will see that the result you get from decent feedback is honestly worth the pain. Not only will it improve the text you’ve had feedbacked, but also your awareness of your reader, and eventually your qualities as an author as a whole.


  • L. Parole

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