Setbacks. They’re not unusual. Everything is going alright, you’re healthy, school is going well, your friends and family are doing okay, in short: life’s good. Then suddenly misery strikes, and it feels kind of similar to being hit in the face by a metal cactus. Continuously. Everything around you collapses with the crushing sound of buildings being demolished, and you feel like there’s not a spark of happiness left. Now what?Stop being a drama queen. Yes, something went (terribly) wrong. You fluffed up. You did not succeed in something you worked hard for, you misinterpreted a situation, you said the wrong things at the wrong time, … Whatever it was, you messed up. But is the general panic and despair you’re going through right now really necessary? Is this really the end of the world? Let me answer that for you: no. Honestly, it will be okay. Calm the fluff down, and try to see the situation from a more rational point of view.
Now you’re thinking rationally, you must realise that you’re not a special snowflake. There are 7.5 billion people on this planet. Do you really think you’re the Chosen One, the only one dealing with a problem like this? I hate to break this to you, Princess, but no, you’re not. Plenty of people have dealt with a situation like yours before, and plenty of people will deal with something like it after you. Ask around. Maybe there’s someone who has gone through something similar, and can give you some advice on how to deal with it.
If you thought this was already hard, brace yourselves. Because now it’s time to get it the fluff together. You’ve spent so much time sitting around regretting your decisions and pitying yourself, that you lost sight on what really matters: finding a solution to the problem. Pick up your broken pieces and find some strong glue, because nothing ever solves itself. It’s time to take back control of the wheel, Captain, because the wheel is not going to control itself.
I know that with some setbacks it’s not always easy to get back on your feet. It might take a lot of time, but you need to try regardless, because you can’t let life pass by while you wallow in sadness and self-pity. To say it in the words of the wise Captain Jack Sparrow: the problem is not the problem, the problem is your attitude about the problem.
- L. Parole